Defend the women around you. Defend the fictional women. Defend the real women. Defend complicated women, angry women, sad women. Defend a world in which women can be not-men in a way that’s not punitive, can be people, can be anything. Consume media created by women. Surround yourself with women — not “surround yourself with strong women,” as the saying often goes, because a) we’re not under a societal obligation to be strong and b) how offensive, to qualify women like that as if we are, inherently, not strong. Fill your eyes and ears and heart with a chorus of female voices and know, above all, that there is room for all of them.
Some women want to be house wives and some women want to be Harvard professors and some women want to be porn stars and some women want to be nuns and some women want to be surgeons and there is nothing wrong with anyone’s profession I am sick of people being rude to women about their professions oh my god
What should be clear, at very least, is that we are feminists because we care about women. To say that we want to see women further marginalized is an incredibly bold fabrication. What could our motives possibly be except the well-being, rights, and liberty of women? These representations ignore and erase the truth of our movement. They erase the fact that women in this movement come from all sorts of backgrounds, are marginalized, have been prostituted and abused, work with and for women on a daily basis, and not only are impacted by the sex industry on a personal and systemic level, but care about the impact on all other women and girls as well.
Compared to women without mental health problems, women with depression were around 2.5 times more likely to have experienced domestic violence over their adult lifetime (prevalence estimate 45.8 percent).
Women with anxiety disorders were over 3.5 times more likely to have experienced domestic violence (prevalence estimate 27.6 percent), and women with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) were around 7 times more likely (prevalence estimate 61 percent).
Women with other disorders, including obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), eating disorders, schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, were also at an increased risk of domestic violence compared to women without mental health problems, according to the researchers.
(Please remember these statistics next time someone labels an abuse victim as “crazy” in an attempt to dismiss or discredit them).
(via forsurvivors)
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Oh honey. No. “Real”women? By whose standards? What exactly is a “real” woman?
One with breasts? So if you had breast cancer and had to have a double mastectomy, you wouldn’t be a “real” woman anymore?
One with reproductive organs? If you had to have a full hysterectomy because you were struggling with menopause, would that mean you weren’t a “real” woman?
Or perhaps it’s simply that you don’t view women that weren’t born physically female as “real” women? Well to that I say a great big fat fuck you.
Trans women (and men!) deal with problems that cis women like you (and me) will never deal with and don’t even have to think about.
Privilege comes in many, many forms. Cis privilege is a very real thing. Check yours.
White women’s feminisms still center around equality…. Black women’s feminisms demand justice. There is a difference. One kind of feminism focuses on the policies that will help women integrate fully into the existing American system. The other recognizes the fundamental flaws in the system and seeks its complete and total transformation.
What I want to talk about is how emotional outbursts typically more associated with men (shouting, expressing anger openly) are given a pass in public discourse in a way that emotional outbursts typically more associated with women (crying, “getting upset”) are stigmatized. I wish to dispel the notion that women are “more emotional.” I don’t think we are. I think that the emotions women stereotypically express are what men call “emotions,” and the emotions that men typically express are somehow considered by men to be something else. This is incorrect. Anger? EMOTION. Hate? EMOTION. Resorting to violence? EMOTIONAL OUTBURST. An irrational need to be correct when all the evidence is against you? Pretty sure that’s an emotion. Resorting to shouting really loudly when you don’t like the other person’s point of view? That’s called “being too emotional to engage in a rational discussion.” Not only do I think men are at least as emotional as women, I think that these stereotypically male emotions are more damaging to rational dialogue than are stereotypically female emotions. A hurt, crying person can still listen, think, and speak. A shouting, angry person? That person is crapping all over meaningful discourse.
Bullish Life: When Men Get Too Emotional To Have A Rational Argument (via introvertedactivist) (via vomohiper)
It’s really worth reading the whole article.
(via butwewereokay)
Not only are male outbursts given a pass, they are often placed at the fault of others.
If a white heterosexual male is angry in public, any “other” human will be automatically defaulted as the instigator in the eyes of everyone else. They will be more likely to be coded as undeserving or unworthy.
The safety of being an angry white man.
(via newwavefeminism)
^ which is often used against women who rebuff the advances of men (espescially the straight white ones). a woman who tells a man who’s hitting on her to go away or who refuses a “free” drink or anything to that effect thereby “making” the man get angry because she couldn’t just “be nice” is going to be faulted instead of the creepy creeper who refused to take no for an answer like we’re all supposed to.
(via rapeculturerealities)
As a feminist I think women should also be drafted if necessary.
As a feminist I think women should not be given a lighter sentence compared to a man who did the same crime.
As a feminist I think female abusers should be held at the same level as male abusers
As a feminist I think male rape victims are just as equal as female rape victims and deserve the same attention.
As a feminist I believe in complete equality between genders even if that equality isn’t always “beneficial” to me
The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because their shit worked out. They got that way because shit went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.
